Question :
My boyfriend and I want to try light bondage, and for our first time, I want to be the one in charge. How do I begin?
Answer:
The word silk scarf silk scarf bondage often conjures up images of leather, chains, and handcuffs. But you don't need hard-core accoutrements to experiment with power play. What you do need is mutual CTC (consent, trust, and communication), and the desire to expand your sexual boundaries.
When you and your guy are fooling around, roll him onto his back and straddle him, raise his arms over his head, and loosely bind his wrists with a scarf, his tie, or your stocking. Once he's under your control, have your way with him: Rub your nipples up and down his torso; lick your way from his toes up to his groin, skimming — but not quite touching — his package; use your tongue to run a luscious, wet trail from one hot zone to the next.
The idea is to tease him into a frenzy until he begs for mercy. If you really want to push the erotic envelope, blindfold him. Cutting off one sense intensifies the others, so every time you touch him you'll send shockwaves coursing through his bod. Then, next time reverse the roles. Remember: Dominating can be intoxicating, but surrender is sweet.
While dabbling in silk scarf silk scarf bondage is a great way to have mildly kinky fun, there are a couple of safety rules you need to know: Make sure you keep the restraints loose (you don't want to cut off his circulation), don't leave him unattended, and have him choose a nonsexual phrase or signal before the games start that he can use anytime he wants to be untied.
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Friday 26 December 2008
Tuesday 2 December 2008
About Scarf and Scarves : How can I get my boyfriend to try scarf bondage without him thinking I'm a freak?
Some Answer From silk Scarf Bondage Expert :
Answer 1 :
That's a tough one.
The easy answer is to say, "Just talk to him openly about it. If your relationship is strong, you should be able to be open without worrying about what he might think."
I put that here, because I know it's what you are supposed to say...I'm not sure it applies here :)
Here are some suggestions:
-Try finding a movie with a scarf bondage scene in it (not porn). When the scene comes on, make a comment like, "Hey, that looks like fun," or something like that.
-Have him tie you up. It's a lot easier to mention it to him once he has done it to you. Just mention that it might be fun the other way around.
-Try to get into a "What are your sexual fantasies" discussion with him. You don't have to admit that dominating is one of yours (unless you want to), but that conversation always seems to end up with with the "What do you think about [insert sex act here]" question. It would be a good time to ask.
No matter what you do to bring it up, he probably won't think you are a freak. Unless he has some religious or moral objection to it, which you should know by now, he'll probably be VERY open to it.
Most of the guys I know would love it if their girlfriends suggested things like this. Who knows, once you figure ut how to bring this up, you might find that he has some "freaky" ideas as well.
Good luck...
Answer 2:
I had started my wife 8 years ago with her just wiggling around too much during warm-up so I said to her that I would tie her wrists to the bedposts with scarves if she could'nt keep still.
Bedposts, tickling her and telling her to "be still!' just made her hotter as she squirmed more wildly so we advanced to better restraints. over the years her ankles became restrained as well and candles came into play. just take it slow and see if he/she wants to submit and be pleased and discover deeper satisfaction with a partner she can trust on the deepest level, if it does'nt feel good- choose a word that means "stop" with no question as to why and then discuss the discomfort, often just some fine-tuning. Have Fun!
Answer 3:
I'd start simple- introduce something like a pair of hancuffs to the bedroom- perhaps buy them as a semi-jokey present for him (most sex shops sell the safety-catch variety- you can even get them in gift shops), and next time you're getting fruity suggest that he uses them on you/ you use them on him (whichever you prefer). Its harmless and fairly innocuous not-too-kinky fun, but suggestive of more full on bondage. If you prefer, you could get hold of some bondage tape and get inventive (more comfortable to use) or improvise with some scarves and stockings. Few guys will throw a strop about it- if he seems to be enjoying it (or at least not minding it), add a blindfold, then you can start to step things up a gear and make slightly more extreme suggestions until you either get exactly what you want or you reach his shock limit. Porn can be a good tool here in a "hey, why don't we try that?" kind of way.
Make sure you still have "normal" sex with him occasionally too, so he knows that you're still satisfied by him no-frill, so to speak
Answer 1 :
That's a tough one.
The easy answer is to say, "Just talk to him openly about it. If your relationship is strong, you should be able to be open without worrying about what he might think."
I put that here, because I know it's what you are supposed to say...I'm not sure it applies here :)
Here are some suggestions:
-Try finding a movie with a scarf bondage scene in it (not porn). When the scene comes on, make a comment like, "Hey, that looks like fun," or something like that.
-Have him tie you up. It's a lot easier to mention it to him once he has done it to you. Just mention that it might be fun the other way around.
-Try to get into a "What are your sexual fantasies" discussion with him. You don't have to admit that dominating is one of yours (unless you want to), but that conversation always seems to end up with with the "What do you think about [insert sex act here]" question. It would be a good time to ask.
No matter what you do to bring it up, he probably won't think you are a freak. Unless he has some religious or moral objection to it, which you should know by now, he'll probably be VERY open to it.
Most of the guys I know would love it if their girlfriends suggested things like this. Who knows, once you figure ut how to bring this up, you might find that he has some "freaky" ideas as well.
Good luck...
Answer 2:
I had started my wife 8 years ago with her just wiggling around too much during warm-up so I said to her that I would tie her wrists to the bedposts with scarves if she could'nt keep still.
Bedposts, tickling her and telling her to "be still!' just made her hotter as she squirmed more wildly so we advanced to better restraints. over the years her ankles became restrained as well and candles came into play. just take it slow and see if he/she wants to submit and be pleased and discover deeper satisfaction with a partner she can trust on the deepest level, if it does'nt feel good- choose a word that means "stop" with no question as to why and then discuss the discomfort, often just some fine-tuning. Have Fun!
Answer 3:
I'd start simple- introduce something like a pair of hancuffs to the bedroom- perhaps buy them as a semi-jokey present for him (most sex shops sell the safety-catch variety- you can even get them in gift shops), and next time you're getting fruity suggest that he uses them on you/ you use them on him (whichever you prefer). Its harmless and fairly innocuous not-too-kinky fun, but suggestive of more full on bondage. If you prefer, you could get hold of some bondage tape and get inventive (more comfortable to use) or improvise with some scarves and stockings. Few guys will throw a strop about it- if he seems to be enjoying it (or at least not minding it), add a blindfold, then you can start to step things up a gear and make slightly more extreme suggestions until you either get exactly what you want or you reach his shock limit. Porn can be a good tool here in a "hey, why don't we try that?" kind of way.
Make sure you still have "normal" sex with him occasionally too, so he knows that you're still satisfied by him no-frill, so to speak
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